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See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part IV

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part IV
By Monette Benoit
All Rights Reserved.

Part III began: Then, while I visited each parent and sat in their hospital bed – each parent in two separate locations – I listened to their plans, their hopes, and their regrets.

Dad, Emmett, had conversational Latin tutorials and ancient Roman Empire CDs on the window sill “to stay busy. I have to keep my mind busy!”

Few people knew my father Emmett J. Donnelly, M. Ed, guidance counselor, social worker, psychologist, educator, et al, was my co-author with Court Reporter Reference Books, the “Purple Books” preparing students and court reporters for state and national written court reporting academic boards, www.CRRbooks.com. (Our profession knows this as the WKT, Written Knowledge Test, for NCRA’s RPR, RDR, and State CSR exams.)

Emmett insisted that he wanted to be accepted on his credentials and did “not want to be known as Monette’s father.” I focused on not rolling my eyes whenever Emmett said this.

Within hospitals and well over 40 hyperbaric treatments (he fell, broke his hip; all treatments had to be restarted), we planned new books, new projects. Really.

Emmett was frequently my guest speaker when I taught, and he helped me teach a few courses as Mr. Emmett. That was the only condition, stipulation, he had – that he not be identified as my father — then, lunch with a glass of wine and a trip to the bookstore, our ‘thing’ for decades.

No one knew Mr. Emmett was my father until I out-ed myself.

One day, a student won a lottery at the AlamoDome to purchase Linda and Paul McCartney tickets. She asked if I wanted tickets.

Instantly, I yelped, “Dad, give me that fifty under your driver’s license!”

Part IV of IV

As the feeding pump and IV machines pumped, softly, Emmett asked about contracting in our profession – and that was when I knew this man just might make it.

Emmett was spot-on with focused questions.

He really wanted to walk down the hall as he lay there under 100 pounds, before he went blind.

“Tomorrow I’ll be better! I will! Then, I’ll walk down the hall. And I want to get out of this damn room! I have places to go, things to do. Busy, busy, busy; that’s me! And I want to see your mother! It’s been a while. I call her every day at 5:30, no matter where we are, as that’s the time ‘we’ eat dinner!”

Emmett was focused on court reporting and spoke of court reporting and captioning before hospital admissions so well that many people thought he was a court reporter. Really.

Emmett spoke about reporting in hospitals telling nurses “You have a degree; you have to get out of nursing before you get hurt. I’m a guidance counselor. I know the stats. Have you looked into court reporting and captioning?”

Everyone thought he was great. I watched as Dad beamed helping others.

People thrived with Emmett as he enjoyed uniquely helping each person.

We watched captioning on TVs.

Emmett spoke about the CATapult series, 420 categories and half a million words, we created and compiled for broadcast captioners, freelance and judicial court reporters.

Since we worked 20+ years together, now and then he would disagree with me saying, “I don’t normally do this. I have a masters in education, and this is important!”

I would reply, “Me court reporter. You not.”

And I know the educator, Dad, who did not initially think ‘I’ would make it through the NCRA-approved reporting student program was so proud of this profession.

Emmett J. Donnelly died September 23, 2011, and is buried within Ft Sam Houston.

Emmett knew the cities of NCRA future conventions; he knew the hopes and dreams of many.

I thank my court reporting and CART captioning profession for the grand ride I had with my father on this court reporting, teacher, author, and publishing path.

As I wrote this February 2012 issue for my column, my mother was still experiencing serious health issues.

Late in the afternoon, Mom phoned to say that she had heart palpitations.

I arrived thinking I would follow yet another ambulance.

Waiting for yet another ambulance and on ‘the’ decision to go or not to go, Mom sat pensive, quiet.

Then, Mom looked up, “You two really had a friendship. You two often laughed talking about your work and your goals in court reporting. I enjoyed listening to you two. I’m so glad you two had that.”

Silent a long while, I nodded and softly replied, “Me too, Mom. Me too.”

“See one; show one; teach one,” good-bye, Dad.

Thank you. Happy Father’s Day.

Monette, the Court Reporting Whisperer, may be reached: Monette@ARTCS.com and Monette@CRRbooks.com

Monette Benoit, B. B.A., CCR, CRI, CPE, Paralegal

Tutor, Motivational Management & Career Coach,
Multiple-Title Author of Books & Test Prep for the Court Reporting and CART Captioning Industry
Realtime Court Reporter, Instructor, Consultant, Columnist

“The Purple Books” — Court Reporter Reference Books & CDs: www.CRRbooks.com
Blog: Monette’s Musings, www.monettebenoit.com

* Educational/Career Advancement; Private Tutoring/Customized Coaching

Have you failed NCRA’s RPR, RMR, RDR, or a state court reporting exam? Are you worried about student loans?

“Get ‘ER Done In Just One” – as evidenced by the many students and professionals who study “The Purple Books” from Court Reporter Reference Books to pass their NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR exams on the first test. Testimonials are listed online, www.CRRbooks.com.

** Pedagogically sound, covering a wealth of material with facts, tips, and comprehensive information.

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and CSR Test Prep Textbook, 6th Edition” has greatly expanded testing tips, testing focus, NCRA COPE Ethics specific details, grammar sections, plus — legal, Latin, court, English, grammar, vocabulary, medical, computer chapters, and review. www.CRRbooks.com

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR Test Prep Set” includes four volumes – each listed on www.CRRbooks.com

Monette will help you to pass your test and to exceed schooling and career goals. http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=61

Did You Know: You can accelerate your career with private tutoring and career coaching? Court reporting veteran Monette Benoit can help you achieve your goals.

Tutoring and career coaching topics include:
• Motivational skills to keep you moving forward,
• Time-management skills,
• Process learning for more effective retention,
• Development of skills to author your book, your blog, and how to publish,
• Communication skills and daily interaction improvement skills.

Who comes to Monette for tutoring and career coaching?
• Professionals who want to achieve their goals, create new possibilities, advance their career, author their book, and to develop the dream within,
• Veteran and novice court reporters, CART (Communication Access Real-Time Translation) providers, and broadcast captioners brushing up on their skills for test-taking requirements,
• In-class students who feel they’re “stuck” and falling behind, or aren’t ready for the required tests,
• Students and veterans who struggle with focus, goal-setting, time-management or other life skills that might be interfering in their upward success,
• At-home students who want to ensure they’re on track for their exams and for their career goals,
• Veteran court reporters, CART Captioners expanding their career options in related fields,
• Students and veterans alike who find they’re struggling with key areas of daily practice,
• Students or veterans who have begun to question their career or whether they’re on the “right track” …

Check out: Reach Your Goals with Tutoring and Career Coaching
http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=29

Monette Benoit, the Court Reporting Whisperer, can help you achieve at much high levels.

Where do you want to go? ** What have you ‘really’ wanted to do with your career, and ultimately, your life?

*NO TWO ARE ALIKE. Specific custom-designed guidance efficiently assists you!

About Monette Benoit:
As a 25+ year court reporter, CART Captioner, author of NCRA test-prep material, an instructor, and public speaker, Monette Benoit has taught multiple theories, academics, all speed classes, and the 225 homeroom within NCRA-approved schools and a community college. She understands the challenges many adults now face in our industry and schooling.

Monette Benoit has worked with thousands of professionals, court reporters, CART Captioners, students, and instructors.

She has also helped to create new court reporting training programs, worked with federal grants, and assisted instructors in developing curriculum for both in-class and at-home students.

Her one-on-one tutoring, private coaching, has greatly assisted thousands of students, novice and experienced professionals to privately reach the next level.

Monette’s Musings is a blog containing information for busy professionals, students, and individuals who are fearless and seek to create their success each day. Reach up. Bring it. * Bring it today!

19 Jun 2016

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part III

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad
By Monette Benoit
All Rights Reserved.

Part II began: While my father Emmett J. Donnelly was an IM-ICU patient, I watched him wince, groan in pain, and grit his teeth while receiving a “standard blood stick.”

Then she, wearing a short, white lab coat, said, “I’ll get better when I graduate.”

A second bed had been placed in the room, so I could stay with Dad in his IM-ICU room. Mom was in another hospital. I traveled between the two…

That day, knowing there were cameras watching Dad and I in the room, I was working, proofing a national CART captioning transcript to send back to their national offices.

Instantly, I placed my work in my lap. Now, I was listening.

After the “lab tech” spoke, my eyebrows shot to my forehead; I looked to Dad. He shrugged.

Me? I smiled, asked her to clarify.

I kid you not, she said, “I’m in high school. I’ll get better when I graduate.” …

Part III

Then, while I visited each parent and sat in their hospital bed – each parent in two separate locations – I listened to their plans, their hopes, and their regrets.

Dad, Emmett, had conversational Latin tutorials and ancient Roman Empire CDs on the window sill “to stay busy. I have to keep my mind busy!”

Few people knew my father Emmett J. Donnelly, M. Ed, guidance counselor, social worker, psychologist, educator, et al, was my co-author with Court Reporter Reference Books, the “Purple Books” preparing students and court reporters for state and national written court reporting academic boards, www.CRRbooks.com. (Our profession knows this as the WKT, Written Knowledge Test, for NCRA’s RPR, RDR, and State CSR exams.)

Emmett insisted that he wanted to be accepted on his credentials and did “not want to be known as Monette’s father.” I focused on not rolling my eyes whenever Emmett said this.

Within hospitals and well over 40 hyperbaric, HBO, treatments (he fell, broke his hip; all treatments had to be restarted), we planned new books, new projects. Really.

Emmett was frequently my guest speaker when I taught, and he helped me teach a few courses as Mr. Emmett.

That was the only condition he had – that he not be identified as my father — then, lunch with a glass of wine and a trip to the bookstore, our ‘thing’ for decades.

(As a child, after I finished my homework and chores, Thursday nights, we went to the library together, so he could “instill the love of learning in you.” As a small child I had been taught, by both parents, to recite, while standing tall, shoulders back, “Those who do not read are condemned to live but one life…” — Really.)

No one knew Mr. Emmett was my father until I out-ed myself.

One day, a student won a lottery at the AlamoDome to purchase Linda and Paul McCartney tickets. She asked if I wanted tickets.

Instantly, I yelped, “Dad, give me that fifty under your driver’s license!”

Students, “Dad?” It did make a difference to my students. Mr. Emmett was right.

Emmett loved hearing about the students and working court reporters I tutored. (I truly could never keep up with Emmett until March 2011.)

Dad always wanted to know:

“How long have they been in school? What speed are they in? Theory? Where are they enrolled? How long has it been since they graduated?”

He also asked about CART captioners, and official, judicial, court reporters.

My parents visited every city I lived, viewed the courts in which I reported, watched me CART caption to large screens at St. Francis Di Paolia Church (Deaf mass with sign interpreters on the altar) and many large events.

Oh, how he laughed when I began CARTing college Latin for a legally-deaf honors student. (The linguistic enthusiast who reviewed Latin, as a hobby.)

Then Emmett came to watch me CART caption Latin.

After everyone left the class, he hugged me.

Now, I understand,” was all he said.

During the last admission, Dad was scheduled to receive a surgically-inserted feeding tube.

Head down, hunched in the wheelchair, Emmett requested, “Read me the emails from new students and reporters.” I read out loud while we answered admission questions, now routine to us. Surgery had to be rescheduled; Emmett was too weak.

It just chapped my Dad (and Mom) that I never would give a full name or city in which my tutoring and coaching student lived.

He would say, “Who am I going to tell?” Me, “It’s confidential. No can do.”

Emmett read ten NCRA JCR (Journal of Court Reporting) issues a year as my column “Beyond The Comfort Zone” appeared in each issue for approximately seventeen years.

He knew our issues, our frequent authors.

Dad always read my column, and if I was given a compliment from he – that was high cotton.

He loved reading vendor news commenting, “Your mother and I could never have put you through college today on my teaching salary like I did back then.”

The second to last time I saw my father alive, I had September’s JCR in my lap.

Emmett had not sat up, rolled over, not walked in eight weeks.

Still he wanted to live. I would read or work, quietly, between our chats.

Each day I would appear with work and some portable food. He waited for me each day – as did Mom. I was simply there, witnessing, sharing, listening, always.

That day, not a good day, Emmett looked to me and said, “Show me the cover.”

I smiled, showed him Doug Friend, NCRA’s new president. He asked to see feature articles.

I read Dad my column. Emmett smiled and asked about students, court reporters, CART captioners, and asked to see the steno writer advertisements “the full-page ones.” Really.

We giggled as I held up steno writer ads, the standards and “fancy ones.”

Monette, the Court Reporting Whisperer, may be reached: Monette@ARTCS.com and Monette@CRRbooks.com

Monette Benoit, B. B.A., CCR, CRI, CPE, Paralegal

Tutor, Motivational Management & Career Coach,
Multiple-Title Author of Books & Test Prep for the Court Reporting and CART Captioning Industry
Realtime Court Reporter, Instructor, Consultant, Columnist

“The Purple Books” — Court Reporter Reference Books & CDs: www.CRRbooks.com
Blog: Monette’s Musings, www.monettebenoit.com

* Educational/Career Advancement; Private Tutoring/Customized Coaching

Have you failed NCRA’s RPR, RMR, RDR, or a state court reporting exam? Are you worried about student loans?

“Get ‘ER Done In Just One” – as evidenced by the many students and professionals who study “The Purple Books” from Court Reporter Reference Books to pass their NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR exams on the first test. Testimonials are listed online, www.CRRbooks.com.

** Pedagogically sound, covering a wealth of material with facts, tips, and comprehensive information.

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and CSR Test Prep Textbook, 6th Edition” has greatly expanded testing tips, testing focus, NCRA COPE Ethics specific details, grammar sections, plus — legal, Latin, court, English, grammar, vocabulary, medical, computer chapters, and review. www.CRRbooks.com

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR Test Prep Set” includes four volumes – each listed on www.CRRbooks.com

Monette will help you to pass your test and to exceed schooling and career goals. http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=61

Did You Know: You can accelerate your career with private tutoring and career coaching? Court reporting veteran Monette Benoit can help you achieve your goals.

Tutoring and career coaching topics include:
• Motivational skills to keep you moving forward,
• Time-management skills,
• Process learning for more effective retention,
• Development of skills to author your book, your blog, and how to publish,
• Communication skills and daily interaction improvement skills.

Who comes to Monette for tutoring and career coaching?
• Professionals who want to achieve their goals, create new possibilities, advance their career, author their book, and to develop the dream within,
• Veteran and novice court reporters, CART (Communication Access Real-Time Translation) providers, and broadcast captioners brushing up on their skills for test-taking requirements,
• In-class students who feel they’re “stuck” and falling behind, or aren’t ready for the required tests,
• Students and veterans who struggle with focus, goal-setting, time-management or other life skills that might be interfering in their upward success,
• At-home students who want to ensure they’re on track for their exams and for their career goals,
• Veteran court reporters, CART Captioners expanding their career options in related fields,
• Students and veterans alike who find they’re struggling with key areas of daily practice,
• Students or veterans who have begun to question their career or whether they’re on the “right track” …

Check out: Reach Your Goals with Tutoring and Career Coaching
http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=29

Monette Benoit, the Court Reporting Whisperer, can help you achieve at much high levels.

Where do you want to go? ** What have you ‘really’ wanted to do with your career, and ultimately, your life?

*NO TWO ARE ALIKE. Specific custom-designed guidance efficiently assists you!

About Monette Benoit:
As a 25+ year court reporter, CART Captioner, author of NCRA test-prep material, an instructor, and public speaker, Monette Benoit has taught multiple theories, academics, all speed classes, and the 225 homeroom within NCRA-approved schools and a community college. She understands the challenges many adults now face in our industry and schooling.

Monette Benoit has worked with thousands of professionals, court reporters, CART Captioners, students, and instructors.

She has also helped to create new court reporting training programs, worked with federal grants, and assisted instructors in developing curriculum for both in-class and at-home students.

Her one-on-one tutoring, private coaching, has greatly assisted thousands of students, novice and experienced professionals to privately reach the next level.

Monette’s Musings is a blog containing information for busy professionals, students, and individuals who are fearless and seek to create their success each day. Reach up. Bring it. * Bring it today!

19 Jun 2016

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part II

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part II
By Monette Benoit
All Rights Reserved.

Part I began: Today, June 19, 2016, is Father’s Day. Originally, I wrote a shorter version for my NCRA (National Court Reporters Association) JCR, Journal of Court Reporting, column, February 2012.

They were married 58 years. She gave the engagement ring back three times.

His father was killed in a car accident less than one week before the wedding.

A child ran into the road. His father swerved missing the first child…

After the funeral, everyone (I ‘mean’ everyone) wanted he, the only child, not to marry – soon…

When they did marry in a quiet wedding, everyone wore black, except the bride. …

When they met, he was employed by the University of Houston and was helping the Veterans Administration to build and create a psych department after his draft ended.

Growing up with my parents and a special needs brother, I always marveled (my words) “how when it was good, it was very good; when it was not good – you two went to your corners – always.”

In fact, I had a $50 bet that they’d never make it to their 50th anniversary. (Only daughter with multiple brothers and their ‘constant learning challenges’ – this made sense to me…)

Part II

While my father Emmett J. Donnelly was an IM-ICU patient, I watched him wince, groan in pain, and grit his teeth while receiving a “standard blood stick.”

Then she, wearing a short, white lab coat, said, “I’ll get better when I graduate.”

A second bed had been placed in the room, so I could stay with Dad. Mom was in another hospital. I traveled between the two…

That day, knowing there were cameras watching Dad and I in the room, I was working, proofing a national CART captioning transcript to send back to their security-sensitive national offices.

Instantly, I placed my work in my lap. Now, I was listening.

After the “lab tech” spoke, my eyebrows shot to my forehead; I looked to Dad. He shrugged.

Me? I smiled, asked her to clarify.

I kid you not, she said, “I’m in high school. I’ll get better when I graduate.”

If I had not been seated, I would have fallen back.

Calmly, I stood, placed my confidential work under my computer, exited without a word.

I walked to the IM-ICU nurses station where nurses monitored machines and watched cameras for each patient in each room.

Calmly, I said, “My father has collapsing veins on a good day. On file is his Power of Attorney. I am asking that this IM-ICU patient has blood drawn only from individuals who have graduated high school.”

Few moved behind that long desk. Calmly, I exited. Then I sighed.

A mature adult soon entered Dad’s room. He introduced himself as head pharmacist.

“I was sent here…” Dad looked to me, shrugged, weak.

To me, while the head pharmacist stuck and restuck him (over and over), Dad said, “See one, show one, teach one. We’re both teachers – you and me. Education. Remember. Always remember.”

To the youngster in the white lab coat, he smiled, “You’re doing fine.”

My lips were together until Project Blood Stick (my term) was finished.

The head pharmacist said, “This was more involved than I thought it would be. I really had my work cut out for me – Get it? Cut out?”

After they left the room, I commented, “That was unnecessary pain for you.”

Dad, “I’m a teacher. She needs to learn. It might as well be me.”

Me, “Not today, Dad.”

Dad insisted that “she” (in 11th grade!) needed to learn.

I insisted “she” could learn on oranges or other blood-drawing (sic) students as is standard protocol for trade schools, colleges, and universities, not ‘on’ IM-ICU patients for a high school student seeking “to get better when I graduate.”

Oh, my father wanted to live. He fought his illnesses with lion-hearted strength.

As each new diagnosis was added February 28th, 2011, until hospice, Dad insisted, “I’m going to get better. I still have things I want to do.”

While he was limited in his movements to bed (multiple machines) I sat in his bed, my feet near his elbows.

I placed a pillow at the foot of the bed to prevent the hard metal from hurting my back. Those memories will always be bittersweet for me.

We had more ‘real’ conversations, I believe, because I was not in a chair on the other side of the room. It became “our time.”

I began to say, “Remember when you said that you only tell me this on your deathbed…” He would nod and quietly share.

Then, for each question I asked, he would quietly say, “Remember when you told me that you were going to go to ‘x’ – well, I knew that you did not. It was important for you to learn your boundaries as you learned independence…”

We both were stunned at what we both knew and had not shared when we were younger…

Dad, “As a counselor, I knew if I confronted you, you would become stuck in that passage proving to your mother and I that you were right. I knew, that this was a passage, and as hard as it was, I looked the other way. Yet, I knew. I knew you were basically a good person who was learning boundaries with your peers…”

Me, “What??!!”

He would smile, wiggle his toes… This became a small ritual for us, a new passage, for us.

When Mommy was ill, after Dad’s death, and she would cry from pain or despair, sometimes I would share, “Dad told me…”

Instantly, she would stop crying (often from convulsive crying).

Mom would look up, wipe her nose, place her shoulders back, and wipe her tears. Then, often, a small giggle would emerge.

She, “Oh, I ‘remember’ that. We decided to let you grow wings that day… But we were both disappointed in you… (then a long pause) But that day then turned into something else with your brothers. You all turned out okay…”

Mom always stopped crying then. She seemed to gain strength from the passage-moments (my term) I had with Dad.

Those moments became passage-moments with Mom, too.

Nurses and techs with both parents were absolutely stunned in pre-op, post-op, ICU, ER, all the departments, when they would hear these private conversations. They could not fathom having two parents who were educators and would ‘allow’ me to learn my mistakes, on my own.

Monette, the Court Reporting Whisperer, may be reached: Monette@ARTCS.com and Monette@CRRbooks.com

Monette Benoit, B. B.A., CCR, CRI, CPE, Paralegal

Tutor, Motivational Management & Career Coach,
Multiple-Title Author of Books & Test Prep for the Court Reporting and CART Captioning Industry
Realtime Court Reporter, Instructor, Consultant, Columnist

“The Purple Books” — Court Reporter Reference Books & CDs: www.CRRbooks.com
Blog: Monette’s Musings, www.monettebenoit.com

* Educational/Career Advancement; Private Tutoring/Customized Coaching

Have you failed NCRA’s RPR, RMR, RDR, or a state court reporting exam? Are you worried about student loans?

“Get ‘ER Done In Just One” – as evidenced by the many students and professionals who study “The Purple Books” from Court Reporter Reference Books to pass their NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR exams on the first test. Testimonials are listed online, www.CRRbooks.com.

** Pedagogically sound, covering a wealth of material with facts, tips, and comprehensive information.

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and CSR Test Prep Textbook, 6th Edition” has greatly expanded testing tips, testing focus, NCRA COPE Ethics specific details, grammar sections, plus — legal, Latin, court, English, grammar, vocabulary, medical, computer chapters, and review. www.CRRbooks.com

The “Complete NCRA RPR, RDR, and State CSR Test Prep Set” includes four volumes – each listed on www.CRRbooks.com

Monette will help you to pass your test and to exceed schooling and career goals. http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=61

Did You Know: You can accelerate your career with private tutoring and career coaching? Court reporting veteran Monette Benoit can help you achieve your goals.

Tutoring and career coaching topics include:
• Motivational skills to keep you moving forward,
• Time-management skills,
• Process learning for more effective retention,
• Development of skills to author your book, your blog, and how to publish,
• Communication skills and daily interaction improvement skills.

Who comes to Monette for tutoring and career coaching?
• Professionals who want to achieve their goals, create new possibilities, advance their career, author their book, and to develop the dream within,
• Veteran and novice court reporters, CART (Communication Access Real-Time Translation) providers, and broadcast captioners brushing up on their skills for test-taking requirements,
• In-class students who feel they’re “stuck” and falling behind, or aren’t ready for the required tests,
• Students and veterans who struggle with focus, goal-setting, time-management or other life skills that might be interfering in their upward success,
• At-home students who want to ensure they’re on track for their exams and for their career goals,
• Veteran court reporters, CART Captioners expanding their career options in related fields,
• Students and veterans alike who find they’re struggling with key areas of daily practice,
• Students or veterans who have begun to question their career or whether they’re on the “right track” …

Check out: Reach Your Goals with Tutoring and Career Coaching
http://crrbooks.com/index.php?cPath=29

Monette Benoit, the Court Reporting Whisperer, can help you achieve at much high levels.

Where do you want to go? ** What have you ‘really’ wanted to do with your career, and ultimately, your life?

*NO TWO ARE ALIKE. Specific custom-designed guidance efficiently assists you!

About Monette Benoit:
As a 25+ year court reporter, CART Captioner, author of NCRA test-prep material, an instructor, and public speaker, Monette Benoit has taught multiple theories, academics, all speed classes, and the 225 homeroom within NCRA-approved schools and a community college. She understands the challenges many adults now face in our industry and schooling.

Monette Benoit has worked with thousands of professionals, court reporters, CART Captioners, students, and instructors.

She has also helped to create new court reporting training programs, worked with federal grants, and assisted instructors in developing curriculum for both in-class and at-home students.

Her one-on-one tutoring, private coaching, has greatly assisted thousands of students, novice and experienced professionals to privately reach the next level.

Monette’s Musings is a blog containing information for busy professionals, students, and individuals who are fearless and seek to create their success each day. Reach up. Bring it. * Bring it today!

19 Jun 2016

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part I

See One; Show One; Teach One; Good-Bye, Dad, Part I
By Monette Benoit
All Rights Reserved.

Today, June 19, 2016, is Father’s Day. Originally, I wrote a shorter version for my NCRA (National Court Reporters Association) JCR, Journal of Court Reporting, column, February 2012. Still feeling the loss of both parents – caregiver for both – I share now.

They were married 58 years. She gave the engagement ring back three times.

His father was killed in a car accident less than one week before the wedding.

A child ran into the road. His father swerved missing the first child.

Then, a second child ran to the first child. His father hit a tree, at full speed, to avoid hitting the two children.

After the funeral, everyone (I ‘mean’ everyone) wanted he, the only child, not to marry – soon.

Her mother was dying with cancer. If the wedding did not go forward, she would never see him again. Never.

When they did marry in a quiet wedding, everyone wore black, except the bride.

He fell hard for this Southern belle, professional ballet dancer, degreed opera singer, and student enrolled at the University of Houston to become a special education instructor.

She was working at Sakowitz and Neiman Marcus, while attending school, as a fashion consultant and model. (The engagement ring was from Sakowitz, 15% discount. The bridal gown was from Neiman Marcus with a discount, also, due to her employment.)

When they met, he was employed by the University of Houston and was helping the Veterans Administration build and create a psych department, after his draft ended.

Growing up with my parents and a special-needs brother, I always marveled (my words) “how when it was good, it was very good; when it was not good – you two went to your corners – always.”

In fact, I had a $50 bet that they’d never make it to their 50th anniversary. (Only daughter with multiple brothers and their ‘constant learning challenges’ – this made sense to me…)

When they argued, I softly teased my parents about my bet. They would wince their eyes and glare at me; now and then I received a tart remark.

When my family flew from Texas to the home of a younger brother for their 50th anniversary, I phoned to tell them that we had our rental car.

I shared, “We’re here!” after three airports and a full, long day.

Dad, “Your mother and I are not speaking. I’ll give her the phone.”

My tired eyebrows shot up; my giggles percolated.

Mom, “We are not speaking. When will I see you, honey?”

Laughing, I pleaded, “Mom, pulllese leave him. You, we, have three hours. I can come right now. I promise to give you $50. Pulllese leave him.”

Mom, sweetly, “I will see you in the morning. I love you more than I did since we last talked!” (…how Mommy ended phone calls with me.)

To her husband, “Here! I’m finished.” Click.

The next morning, I raced over to my parents, holding hands, greeting people.

Me, “Dad, what happened last night?”

He, “I don’t remember.”

Me to Mom, “What happened?”

She, “Now is not the time to talk about it. But I will tell you all about it later. Alone. Without him! I stood my ground! I did. We’re so glad you’re here!”

Me, to Dad, “So, this is how you made it to 50 years? You don’t remember? And you, Mom, you’ll tell me later?”

Both giggled, nodding, and hugged each other.

Dad took my hand, “Let’s get a glass of wine. ‘You’ did not win your bet. I did!”

Through the years we joked about that morning Dad and I had a glass of wine because that was his win.

We laughed about it when Mom was seriously ill. Then, Dad soon followed with serious health issues.

Within the blink of an eye, each had ER, ICU, pre-op, medical admissions.

Then, there were parents in two different hospitals, each critically ill.

As the only daughter (court reporter here) I remember verbatim conversations – and am grateful for not winning my $50 bet.

Today, Father’s Day, I know they’re together again – far from here.

Emmett’s Jesuit Catholic beliefs and my mother’s very strong religious beliefs always taught me that they are now together.

I share this as a tribute to the gentleman who was so good to his wife, to his children, his family, and to all.

Dad had a master’s degree in adult education; was a psychologist; social worker; guidance counselor; co-author; chemistry, science, and English teacher who researched linguistics and history – an “avid-life enthusiast” I called him.

Mom had a master’s degree in elementary special education, was a music instructor, and played seven instruments.

For years, I thought everyone’s mother had a xylophone under their bed.

Her mother was a piano prodigy (and court stenographer) with her own orchestra during the Depression.

I still grieve for how Dad died and for the world I now have without his laughter, his checking in, “I do not need an appointment to see my daughter. Never. Never! No matter where you live and no matter where you work your mother and I will stop in to see you. Always. Just like with your brothers…”

They appeared in each state and each courtroom where I worked.

I will always remember working, focused, often head down – then, I would hear Dad cough.

Sheer panic would set in when I looked up to see if they were in the courtroom pews – or worse, in the jury box where a bailiff or judge granted seats to the court reporter’s parents.

With great love, I can hear Dad, “Onward now,” as he gently reached his hand out to me to give me one last hug.

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