Exactly Why Am I Doing This Now? Part III of III
By Monette Benoit, All Rights Reserved.
May 24, 2013
Part I began: The requested tutor and empowerment coaching appointment began with a simple question.
My question to the court reporter was simply, “How are you?”
Part II began: We agreed to assess goals that had been met as a student and to evaluate where she is now as a certified court reporter.
The court reporter then said (I have permission to share) “When I was going to school then, I was not putting in as much as I should have. Then working with you, I decided I could do this – I really could do this. I decided to not do this and to not do that, but to really do this and to not make excuses. That was how I came a long way. I focused as you advised.”
Thus, we spent our time working together constructively, realistically focusing.
Part III: Instead of focusing on the loud voice in her head, we focused on the tasks that would realistically work with her present schedule and her goals now. Today.
Her question “exactly why am I doing this now?” remained with me after we scheduled updates and ended our time together.
This very question itself, in my opinion, will give you freedom.
Have you asked yourself this question and identified what is important?
Have you asked yourself this question on a good day – and not when events are comedy for Saturday Night Live?
I believe this is an excellent question. We take risks when we ask the question, “Why?”
Together we focused on the nutrition for the goals.
The court reporter and I made a conscious choice to create strength with training while working.
What I heard the court reporter say – and what was identified later by her words – were her fears. I heard, “I am afraid …” Her true fears were shared “straight up.”
Yes, I could hear fear in her voice, as well as the frustration.
I could hear fear as very real facts were shared by this working reporter.
When she was a court reporting student, she fear identified, too. Together we addressed the fears then.
Together we walked straight into her fears now.
Fear can be a motivator – if we are moving away from fears or toward goals.
I believe that we are imprinted with past moments.
My opinion is that any professional training that requires excellent daily standards as we learn a new language and begin to build technical skills will create survival skills that any TV reality show would ever understand.
Instead of “You’re Fired,” our TV show could be called “You Passed! You’re Hired!”
We are not cast on an island to fend for ourselves alone, though it may sure feel close to that.
Individuals outside our profession are often stunned to learn that pass rates on tests in our court reporting speedbuilding classes require a 95 to “pass” up to the higher speed.
A grade of 94 is not a passing grade in court reporting school within a 60- to 225-word per minute speed class. (I used to complain to my parents, each educators, “94 is a failing grade!” Mom and Dad, would smile, “You’re the one who chose the court reporting schooling and the NCRA-approved training, yes?” I would sigh, “Yes, but – ”)
We need a minimum of two tests (some schools require three tests) at 95 before we “pass” to the next speed.
Yes, we are challenged to always strive for perfection… in school, and then on the job. Always.
Having attended court reporting school myself when (it seemed like) every day was “you didn’t pass this one” as the (speed test) papers were handed back to students. To me, these were moments that could weaken individuals outside of our field.
I still refer to my court reporting schooling as “walking barefoot on broken glass.” Really. Good glass.
Exactly why are you doing this now? Is it your passion? Is it your desire to help others in court, depositions, captioning TV and/or providing CART? This is just a sampling where we know our skills are now valued and appreciated.
Do you have a vision where you want to go? Are you there now? Do you have support for your choices now? Have you met individuals who are fun and are proof to the fact that students and working court reporters do tweak their skills, do advance goals and do not let daily fears guide them?
Are you worried about others who may judge you on your choices? I have asked this question and listened to very private opinions.
I have also heard individuals say, “Nah, I just want to stay employed and pay my bills, okay?” Got it.
Perhaps asking the “exactly why am I doing this now” question is the healthiest step forward. My opinion is that by going within to ask the questions that are creating the fears is a good, healthy step.
Court reporters do not let the tail wag the dog.
Seeking success we define exactly why we are doing this now.
Part I of III is posted May 1, 2013, on Monette’s Musings at www.monettebenoit.com and www.CRRbooks.com
Part II of III is posted May 15, 2013, on Monette’s Musings at www.monettebenoit.com and www.CRRbooks.com
Monette, the Court Reporting Whisperer, may be reached: Monette@ARTCS.com and Monette@CRRbooks.com
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