Conflicting Goals, Your Sandbox, And Circling, Part III of III

Conflicting Goals, Your Sandbox, And Circling,
Part III of III
By Monette Benoit, All Rights Reserved.
March 2011

Part I began: Listening to a court reporter I ‘heard’ a pattern.

The court reporter and CART provider, now gainfully employed, is seeking to advance goals. Great.

The court reporter has a full-time job. Great.

The court reporter and CART provider has full-time family responsibilities and a good commute. Fact.

Where did the ‘circling’ occur while I fulfilled this customized request to tutor and coach?

The circling, in my opinion, occurred with ‘conflicting goals’ (my term) during our tutoring and coaching schedule.

One goal would place the reporter in a specific ‘spot’ on a designated date.

Part II began: I was not disrespectful when I laughed. From my chair and window to the world it was a great comment from a professional with a tenacious personality who would do much to reach the sought goals. This is one determined individual. My laughter was true based upon the ‘bad marriage and trapped’ comment.

Then, the court reporter also laughed. Long, hardy, loud laughter.

Sometimes we do need to throw the mud on the floor, yes?

Then we can clean it up and move on with a clear head (and timeline).

Once we agreed on the true conflicting goals, the court reporter and I then refocused with a finer attention to detail.

We ended our tutoring and coaching session with the experienced court reporter now stating this was “not feeling trapped in that bad marriage awaiting benefits each day.”

This focus on conflicting goals was a benefit.

Part III: The court reporter and CART provider said, “That day I heard you say that ‘you need to put more stuff in your sandbox’ when we spoke. I like those words. I wrote that sentence down. I see that sentence all the time now. Now I am extremely focused on my goals and my stuff in my sandbox.” I remembered the moment and smiled.

The reporter then said, “That sharing was when I bit the hook.”

Ah, the true spirit of the court reporter and CART provider.

There are many ways to achieve goals. We have opportunities.

We have seeds we can plant and nurture to journey to (those) goals. Seeds grow. When nourished they do.

We have wonderful professionals, instructors and students who are making mindful choices, creating new moments – and forging forward.

This ‘conflicting goals’ defining and focused mindset has assisted others in our field since I shared this ‘seeding’ with others.

May it be so with you.

So what would you do (avoiding difficulties and obstacles) to seek your goals?

We each have great potential.

Court reporters, CART providers, and captioners are the most creative individuals.

We prove it each and every day.

My wish is that you define your sandbox, your stuff, your goals, and you decide when to bite the hook.

Part I of III is posted March 4, 2011, on Monette’s Musings at and

Part II of III is posted March 17, 2011, on Monette’s Musings at and

Part II of III is posted March 28, 2011, on Monette’s Musings at and

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